Why is it often the hardest thing to ask for and do for others? We don’t want to go out of our way, or we don’t want to ask someone to go out of their way in order to help. It’s a sad thing that we walk by so many people each day who need our help. We walk by so many each day who could help us. We don’t open our mouths or lift our hands. We remain stagnate. How dare we not be a blessing to others, and how dare we not let others bless us?
I say this because this is something that I battle back and forth with all the time. I am sure that it is something that many people struggle with. Some people may seem like they want to take all the handouts and have no problem with asking for help. But maybe they really need the help and have seen the blessings that come from receiving it. Maybe they are helping someone that you don’t see.
Personally, I hate to ask for help. I try to pretend like I can do it all on my own. I’ve realized it’s a control thing, which makes it a pride thing. I think I can handle everything and that I know the best way. In reality, that’s not always the case. The phrase, “The Lord won’t give you more than you can handle,” is used often, but He does give us more than we can handle because it forces us to ask for help. It forces us to rely on Him and His provision. It grows our faith.
I can’t live this life on my own. I have learned that I need to ask for help. Now, I’m still working on getting better at asking for it from people. I still struggle at times with admitting to others that I need help. I’ve come to realize though that I must ask the Lord for help. “By prayer and supplication, make your requests made known to the Lord,” as it says in Philippians 4. Supplication literally means to beg. Beg the Lord for help. He will provide.
The funny thing is, he often uses people to be the ones to help, which is forcing me to ask others for help. There is nothing wrong with asking others for help. The Lord didn’t call us to walk through this life alone. He walks with us and provides others along the way to help us make it through situations. He will always make a way for us. It’s not always going to look how we had thought or wanted it to look but He will do it.
So when we get in a situation that we don’t know how to handle, ask for help. When we see someone who is in a situation that we have been through and know how to handle, offer to help. Don’t make assumptions about someone’s situation and why they are asking for help. You don’t know their whole story. Be a blessing to them, and you’ll be blessed back.
The blessing may not come back from that same person. You will not always reap where you sow, but if you keep sowing, you will reap a harvest. The Lord will provide you with what you need. And if you trust Him and what He’s doing, He can bless you beyond your expectations. You don’t know how he can use someone else’s help to bless you and to bless them. You don’t know how helping someone else will bless them and bless you.
It may just seem like a little thing to you but it’s a huge thing to that person. For me, my apartment was basically furnished for free because I said something to someone. They gave me their old couches and table. I have bought someone dinner and then someone else has bought it for me. I went to help a friend who ran out of gas and she filled up my tank with gas too. You never know how the Lord is going to use that simple act.
If someone blesses you, share that testimony. Testify for how the Lord has provided for you in your moment of need. Open up about how He came through in your moment of distress and provided for you when you didn’t think you were going to make it that month financially or even that day at work. Help someone who is in need, and let others help you. There is such a blessing in loving others and demonstrating Christ’s love this way. I pray that you find the strength to ask for help and hope that you find the opportunity to help someone. May you be blessed by both sides of the coin.